8.03.2014

Positive Thinking Isn't A Substitute For Positive Action

Amy MorinBy Amy Morin, entrepreneur.com, 31-07-2014 
Positive thinking is a valuable tool that can help you overcome obstacles, deal with pain, and reach new goals. The benefits of looking on the bright have been clearly documented. Research studies have discovered that optimistic people tend to enjoy increased marital satisfaction, better physical health, and higher incomes.

All the buzz about the benefits of positivity, has led to some misunderstandings about the concept of positive thinking. Unfortunately, misconceptions about positive thinking could actually do more harm than good .
Positive Thinking Isn’t About Establishing Unrealistic Expectations
Sometimes people confuse positive thinking with fantasizing. They imagine reaching their goals will lead to unlimited happiness. By saying things like, “I’m going to focus on all the positive things that will happen when I lose weight – I’ll have more friends, earn more money, and be able to meet the person of my dreams,” they romanticize the future.
But “focusing on the positive” becomes self-destructive when people establish unrealistic expectations. Just like it’s not healthy to think overly negative thoughts (see my previous post on the 10 Thinking Errors That Will Hold You Back In Life), exaggeratedly positive thoughts can be equally detrimental. If you overestimate how much of a positive impact  a particular change will have on your life, you may end up feeling disappointed when reality doesn’t live up to your fantasy.
There’s even research that suggests thinking too positively about your chance of success may decrease your motivation  to achieve your goals. A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology found that the most positive fantasies about the future predicted poor achievement. When people imagined an idealized future, they actually had less energy and motivation to turn that fantasy into a reality.
istock photoPositive Thinking Doesn’t Possess Magical Powers
Somewhere along the line positive thinking seems to have been confused with magical thinking. There’s a notion that if you think positively enough, you can make anything happen by using the power of your mind. All the positive thinking in the world won’t deliver you good fortune or prevent tragedy from striking.
When someone says his job interview didn’t go well, his family may say, “Think good thoughts,” as if thinking he’ll get the job will somehow influence the interviewer’s decision. Although positive thinking certainly serves many purposes – like helping us cope with tough circumstances – optimism doesn’t change the reality of a situation.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t hold out hope or look on the bright side. But deluding yourself into believing, “If I think positively enough, everything will work out,” isn’t realistic. Idealism doesn’t prevent problems.
Positive Thinking Can’t Replace Positive Action
Hopefully you wouldn’t get into a car and say, “I’m not going to wear my seatbelt today. Instead, I’m just going to think positively about arriving at my destination safely.” But, that’s exactly what many people do in the business world. Sometimes people seem to believe that positive thinking is the single driving force that leads to positive change.
A business owner may say, “I’m just going to think positively about our revenue for the second half of the year,” or a salesperson might say, “I’ve just got to tell myself it’s going to get better.” If they stop short of combining their positive thinking with positive action, they won’t see any positive results.
Overconfidence isn’t the same as healthy positive thinking. Overestimating your ability to reach your goals could prevent you from taking the necessary steps to set yourself up for success. As a result, your “positive thinking” could backfire and leave you feeling unprepared for the reality of the situation.
Establish a Positive Yet Realistic View of the World

Certainly optimism and hope serve very helpful purposes. But there should be a balance between positive thinking and willfully deluding ourselves into believing everything will be perfect. Here are some strategies to help develop a “realistic but optimistic” outlook:
  • Don’t underestimate the effort required to achieve success. Thinking positively doesn’t mean you have to ignore the hard work required to reach your goals. Instead of thinking, “I’m going to become the best,” try thinking, “I’m going to work hard to do my best.”
  • Anticipate the obstacles you’re likely to encounter along the way. Thinking, “Nothing will ever stand in my way,” may cause you to overlook the realities you’ll likely encounter. It’s unlikely that you’ll get to where you want to be without hitting any bumps in the road. Be willing to acknowledge the challenges that you’ll likely face and accept that success may require many failed attempts before you get there.
  • Resolve to maintain a positive attitude despite the outcome. Instead of thinking, “I’m going to win,” remind yourself that you can choose to have a positive attitude whether you win or lose. Healthy positive thinking is about making a conscious choice to be positive about your life right now. Instead of focusing solely on what you need to make your life better in the future, consider all the things you have to be grateful for right now.
Hopefully, positive thinking is just one of many tools you possess to help you reach your goals. But if your entire plan for the future rests solely on imagining an optimal outcome, you may be disappointed. Combine positive thinking with positive action and you’ll be more likely to get positive results .
Amy Morin is a psychotherapist and the author of forthcoming book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do.
Source: http://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2014/07/31/positive-thinking-isnt-a-substitute-for-positive-action/

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